The couple visited me at my therapy room in Avebury, Wiltshire, for their counselling sessions. After discussing their concerns and describing their feelings about the adoption, they were relieved to hear that many adoptive parents experience the very same worries and emotions. In fact, many biological parents also face attachment issues.
With this realisation in mind, the couple were encouraged to feel less compelled to live up to expectations placed on themselves or their adopted child. Adjusting to a child in the home and coping with adoptive children is a slow process, and should be enjoyed rather than worried about. By focusing on enjoying their time with the child rather than their perceived attachment issues, they will become better equipped at providing care, warmth and support, both to the child and to one another.